About Me


Hello! I’m Khanyisa Mnyaka

My name is Khanyisa Mnyaka and I grew up in a small village town called Cala in South Africa. My mother was a teenager when she had me so I was raised by my grandparents. My grandmother was a prison cook, and my grandfather was a priest of a small church. My grandparents did everything they could with what little they had, but I grew up poor. 

Although we were poor in money, my grandparents allowed me space to dream. I was eight years old when I told them that I was going to live “ngaphesheya” which means “overseas” in Xhosa. At that age, the only “overseas” I knew of was America. And here I am now, thirty-six-years old and I live in America! This is only possible because I had two people who did not allow their circumstances deam my precious light. 

This dreaming up of a life I wanted, is also the reason my grandmother did everything she could to make sure that I go to University. I attended the University of the Western Cape in Cape Town, South Africa, where I graduated with a BA in Psychology, Sociology and Anthropology.

When I graduated University, I went through a deep depression that was brought on by the fact that I was a closeted born-again Christian. I had spent years before then trying to ignore my attraction towards other women but the older I got, the more intense the feelings became. I was depressed because I believed that homosexuality was a sin, that who I was was a sin. That thought sent me into deep spirals of shame and guilt. And I was hiding who I was from my friends and family. 

It is that depression that led me to booking a flight to South Korea where I was going to teach English as a Second Language. I thought I was leaving to find myself, but it turns out that I was leaving to return to myself. It is in South Korea where I came out, became bold and convicted about who I was, it is there that I cultivated RADICAL self love. 

I am CALLED to help women live as their most authentic selves through  cultivating RADICAL self love. Many women are socialized to believe that their needs and desires come last. I call BS on that. We can show up in our true greatness, and our empowerment when we put ourselves FIRST. I teach women how to FILL their own cups first, and share from an overflow. I do this through 1:1 coaching, group coaching and relationship coaching. 

My Services

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1:1 Coaching

Cultivate radical self love and begin to live as the most authentic and empowered version of yourself.

Group Coaching

Heal and grow through community, accountability and support.

Relationship Coaching

Reconnect, rediscover and rejuvenate your romantic relationship

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